What Makes Someone an Unsafe Person?

Unsafe people cover a wide range of possible behaviors and relationships. On the one end there are those individuals who, whether intentionally or not, have a tendency to thwart our efforts to become the best version of ourselves that we can possibly be. They get us off track by distracting us, drawing us into conflict, causing us to question ourselves, our values, and sometimes even our very grasp upon reality. On the other end, there are dangerous people who we should do everything in our power to get away from. For the purposes of this post, though, we’re going to focus on the first kind.

Interacting with unsafe people can leave us feeling rattled, doubtful, and upset. Sometimes this can be confusing because that individual may have problem-free relationships with others. This is because sometimes someone may be unsafe for us, but not necessarily unsafe for others. Particular dynamics in our relationship with that person may result in negative interactions and issues with us, but due to the different makeup of different people, and the different requirements of different relationships, those issues are simply not problems for others.

Being an unsafe person to you or me does not make that person ‘bad.’ It just makes them unsafe for us.

A safe person will always help us to be a better version of ourselves. They help us get closer to our values, and to live out our values. By contrast, unsafe people will interfere with our ability to trust, they will intentionally or unintentionally make us feel disconnected from others, especially our safe people, and disconnected from our values. They make it harder to reach our goals, and leave us feeling crummy, confused, or angry.

Key Takeaways

-A safe person helps you become the best person you were created to be.

-A safe person helps you to become connected with other safe people.

-A safe person helps draw you closer to God.