There is no shortage of things in life that can cause you to bury your heart and soul.
If we are going to invest in our lives, itâs going to take some deep digging inside of ourselves. And to dig deeply means that we must face some fears and obstacles. What can you identify in your life that has c...
The fruitfulness of our lives will come from our hearts.
Developing our inner selves helps us prioritize our lives. When we look to our inner selves, we begin to be a guardian of our hearts, making sure that they are strong and healthy, because we know that the fruitfulness of our lives will come f...
 We repeat patterns in our lives without knowing that our pattern is creating the problem.
We could be going back to the same toxic relationships, giving it chance after chance. We could be indulging in the same bad habits that arenât good for us, thinking it wonât affect us is the same way.
But d...
Simply put â You get what you tolerate. In text, it can look like a harsh truth, but let me explain.
This phrase holds true whether you are raising a puppy, a child, a direct report or a spouse. (Hopefully youâre not raising a spouse, but it happens.) It holds true when you are negotiating a deal, ...
I once led a retreat in a secluded setting for a few days. Eight people from all over the country had gathered together to support each other and go through the material I was presenting. The first night I had them all talk about where they were in their lives and what they desired to get from our f...
For those growing and for those who help them, the call is threefold. First, do not refer to pain and suffering caused by character patterns as âgrowth painâ Unless you can use this pain as a wake-up call. It is worthless. It is not legitimate suffering. It is the fruit of a lack of growth.
Not lon...
There is a lot of misunderstanding about boundaries, especially in the context of marriage. Some people are against boundaries because they see them as selfish. Other people actually use boundaries to be selfish. Both are wrong. Boundaries in marriage are basically about self-control.
A client once...
When children come into the world, they are confused about the nature of their relationships. They do not think they are dealing with one person. In their minds, there are two mommies, not one. Or, two daddies, not one. There is the âgoodâ mommy and the âbadâ one.
The good one is the one who gratif...
Telling other people what you want is key to feeling alive in a relationship and keeping things vibrant for both people. If only one person is getting his or her desires met, the relationship suffers. Unfortunately, many people do not get what they want in a relationship. But, they could if they kne...
One evening as I was doing a seminar, I asked people in the audience to list what comes to mind when they thought of the word hate. The response I got was a list of bad things:
- You should not feel it.
- I do it too easily.
- I feel guilty for feeling it.
- It comes from fear.
- I feel uncomfortable w ...
Our most basic boundary is our body. When we possess our bodies, we know they belong to us. We can feel them, we can own the pleasure they bring us through our senses, and we are in touch with them.
To invade another personâs body, to cross over this personâs boundaries, is the most basic act of abus...
Youâre scrolling through Facebook, and what do you see?
That guy from high school you havenât talked to in years posted a photo of his family in matching outfits and adorable smiles.
That couple you knew in college is doing a food tour in Taipei.
That girl you used to work with is posting another...
